Category Archives: HOT FEMME DOMME USA

END OF LIFE & SHADOW WORK

People have been emailing me requesting resources surrounding wills and/or advanced directives for end of life care. I have included links to both at the end of this post. Here is a link to the support line I created. I have also lowered the rate in order to increase availability for those who need it: https://kinkencounters.com/corona-virus-support-line/

Some of you may think this is a little grim, but I consider death to be a part of life. I consider death to be one of the ultimate truths, just like sex.

Someone once told me, “You have the ability to bring my shadow to light.”

Death work is shadow work. Sex work can be shadow work as well.

I am honored to be someone who is capable of holding space for the realities of life, sex, and death – someone who is brave enough to open to the truth. I trust that you have that bravery inside of you at well.

“If you think that at the time of your death you will have the strength to do the work of a lifetime, you will be sorrily mistaken. I find that when I keep death close at hand….I say I love you more often. I take myself a little less seriously and learn to not hold opinions so tightly. Maybe we let go a little more easily. Curiously, I find we become a bit kinder to each other.”- Frank Ostaseki, The Five Invitations

Links:

WILL: https://eforms.com/wills/?fbclid=IwAR2r8eUHzFmLpTI_a6ZrRVOXC6kkuZfSaJxK07ts62dDIXhO2OuGMJVbUE4

ADVANCED DIRECTIVE: https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/financial-legal/free-printable-advance-directives/?fbclid=IwAR0NnLeZB92E3j25A_oiwUvQIw-fCRqKlp2bRF8dXz90sE6_1gQskoi40Mg

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DENVER DOMINATRIX POOL PARTY!

I had the most wonderful time with my slut today. We celebrated her birthday, and I dressed her up like my perfect little fuck doll. For her birthday I got her a few things, but the most important thing that I got her was a swimsuit because she had never had a pool party as her new self, Cici.

It fit!

Cici has been emerging over the past years in and out of our sessions. It is been quite an honor to watch the transformation of gender and sexuality with someone I now call a close friend.

I love making people feel special, but more than anything I love to help others express themselves. It touches a special place in my heart to help others liberate themselves and find freedom in whichever way they desire. Of course, liberation does not have to include gender play, but in this case it did.

I made sure everything was perfect by decorating the dungeon, having snacks, drinks, and of course, a cake.

The earlier part of the afternoon was spent in the pool before we transitioned into the cool red light of the dungeon. Cici has learned, overtime, how to be a good girl and how to please this Denver Dominatrix.

Let’s just say that I’m sure all of her birthday wishes – and mine – were answered. Thank you for the amazing day, Cici.

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FAN PAGE

Per your requests, it has finally happened!

Subscribe to my fan page where I post a ton of kinky shit (shit = photos & videos – & occasionally actual shit).

Really, though, it’s a behind the scenes platform of personal expression where you get to know me on a deeper level. I’m open to requests for custom content. You know me, the weirder the better. https://onlyfans.com/missddenver

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YOU CAN TAKE IT OUT ON YOUR SLAVE

Being a Dominatrix comes with great responsibility. Creating a sacred sexual space comes with ethical obligations.

Occasionally, like everyone, I have bad days. When I share this with others I am often told, “You can take it out on your slave.”

To put it simply, there is NO WAY that I – or anyone else – should ever take a bad day out on a slave – with one exception.

The exception is to obtain consent so that both parties are clear on the intention of play.

My background in psychotherapy and my knowledge of countertransference guide my ethical compass. I also am well-informed on emotional entanglement vs. healthy relationships.

Even if I mask what is going on, my slave/bottom/sub will feel it on an energetic level. To think of other providers who use others to meet their needs for emotional enmeshment or codependency is of great concern to me. In that situation, no one gets better.

I am not saying that I put my emotional needs to the side forever. If I am upset and have a booking, I simply reassure myself that I will revisit the issue once the session has finished. This helps me be present for myself and for my submissive while we play.

I am always available to consult with other providers to help them find ways to be most effective when holding space. If you are a slave and you are concerned about the way your Mistress takes things out on you, book a consult and we can discuss ways for you to navigate the situation. https://kinkencounters.com/online-bdsm-sessions-distance-dominance/

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THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PAIN AND LOVE

My motivation to write an article on the dichotomous relationship between love and pain lies heavily on the most common complaint I hear from couples I coach outside of the BDSM world.  The most common complaint I hear is that most of my clients experience an inability to connect with friends, family, or lovers – sometimes even pets. It presents as an inability to connect, to be vulnerable, and to experience empathy. I’m not talking about superficial connection that revolves around pleasantries, and I’m not talking about not being able to do activities with others. What I’m talking about is the connection that is often called “intimacy,” the connection that makes us feel safe, can make us feel comfortable sharing our bodies with others, and the connection that is a result of feeling seen, heard, and respected in our experiences.  Continue reading THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PAIN AND LOVE

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SEX & DESIRE – PART I

Today I am going to write about sex and desire and how it pertains to relationships, control, and self-esteem. Let me start by clarifying my definition of sex. To me, sex is: Continue reading SEX & DESIRE – PART I

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THE GIFT OF SUBMISSION

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Submission is a gift. Submission is not something that Dommes are entitled to, and it is not something to be taken with force (unless of course there has been negotiation in regards to a role-play beforehand).

So, why is submission a gift? Continue reading THE GIFT OF SUBMISSION

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THE SHUTTING DOWN OF BACKPAGE.COM

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NEW YEAR POST

I went back and forth about whether or not to create a New Year post. I don’t really celebrate the New Year, simply because it doesn’t make sense Continue reading NEW YEAR POST

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WINTER BREAK

Hello kinky people! It’s your favorite Dominatrix informing you of my winter break that will occur from December 21 through January 2. Continue reading WINTER BREAK

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