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WORLD’S BEST MISTRESS IS BACK!

I sincerely hope this finds you safe and healthy during these fucked up times.

“You can do it like it’s a great weight, or you can do it like it’s part of the dance.” – Ram Dass

As many of you know, at the start of the pandemic I shifted my focus from BDSM and fetishes to online grief and mental health coaching for those in transition. The experience proved to be a very good way by which to stay connected while being open to the drastic and radical shifts that were, and still are, occurring. I had no idea of the necessary and demanding position I would find myself in due to all the change. I’m thankful to have been able to give and receive.

I was lucky to be able to continue to work in some capacity by doing either phone or video sessions for individuals and couples. I found the interactions to be stimulating and fresh, they kept me on my toes, and kept my mind sharp. In fact, knowing the power I have just by using my voice is a huge turn on! You wouldn’t believe some of the things people have done for me. Conducting sessions virtually requires a very advanced ability to communicate and also the ability to “think in pictures.” You can thank my autism for the latter and my passion for the former.

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2020

Also, at the start of the pandemic I relocated to a new space. It was stressful to move during times like these, but things have finally settled down. I even have the dungeon set up for that special first day, whenever that will be. I thank all of you who assisted with the move in some capacity, even if it was just to check in on me.

One of the most challenging aspects of the last five months was the amount of death and loss I have experienced. There have been a total of five deaths so far, and three of them were people with whom I had significant and impactful histories. Needless to say, taking a break from all sessions to grieve was a choice I gladly made for my mental health. These times have reinforced my belief in appreciating the moments, the power of presence, and true connections. I’m thankful we have kept in touch.

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Now, some sense of normalcy has been restored for the time being. I am back in school, and I love it! I am holding sessions of all types, and have been enjoying working with couples in particular. It seems that many people have decided to spice up their sex life as a result of the pandemic, and that liberation brings me great joy. Of course, I wish I could physically go to class and play with others, but for now, this is an excellent option. I can’t imagine what we would do without the technology that did and does carry many of us through.

I have updated each page of my website to reflect the changes that have occurred, and my rates have been adjusted to remain fair and competitive within the industry! XOXOXOXO

END OF LIFE & SHADOW WORK

People have been emailing me requesting resources surrounding wills and/or advanced directives for end of life care. I have included links to both at the end of this post. Here is a link to the support line I created. I have also lowered the rate in order to increase availability for those who need it: https://kinkencounters.com/corona-virus-support-line/

Some of you may think this is a little grim, but I consider death to be a part of life. I consider death to be one of the ultimate truths, just like sex.

Someone once told me, “You have the ability to bring my shadow to light.”

Death work is shadow work. Sex work can be shadow work as well.

I am honored to be someone who is capable of holding space for the realities of life, sex, and death – someone who is brave enough to open to the truth. I trust that you have that bravery inside of you at well.

“If you think that at the time of your death you will have the strength to do the work of a lifetime, you will be sorrily mistaken. I find that when I keep death close at hand….I say I love you more often. I take myself a little less seriously and learn to not hold opinions so tightly. Maybe we let go a little more easily. Curiously, I find we become a bit kinder to each other.”- Frank Ostaseki, The Five Invitations

Links:

WILL: https://eforms.com/wills/?fbclid=IwAR2r8eUHzFmLpTI_a6ZrRVOXC6kkuZfSaJxK07ts62dDIXhO2OuGMJVbUE4

ADVANCED DIRECTIVE: https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/financial-legal/free-printable-advance-directives/?fbclid=IwAR0NnLeZB92E3j25A_oiwUvQIw-fCRqKlp2bRF8dXz90sE6_1gQskoi40Mg

CORONA VIRUS SUPPORT LINE

VIA NITEFLIRT, CLICK HERE: https://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/11022364-Corona-Virus-Support-Psychology-Chaplaincy

I have created a Corona virus support line designed for emotional support for anyone who needs it during this time. I have an MA in Counseling Psychology, and I am currently working on my second MA in Divinity. I am being trained to offer care to those in crisis who are grieving and/or dying and experiencing loss.

I identify as omnist and interfaith with a strong emphasis in Buddhism and a background in Christianity and Catholicism – and also atheism.

I am here to help you get resourced by means of somatic therapy, talk therapy, or Buddhist meditation in the form of Vipassana or Shamata. I am an expert at holding non-judgemental spaces, and I work with men and women with emotional issues pertaining to their lives and gender roles within the family or societal dynamic.

I have a multitude of various methods from which to pull from. Let’s find what eases your suffering or simply allows space for it to be. I am extremely skilled at identifying a proper modality in a timely and efficient manner.

Thus far, my studies have been dedicated primarily to the neurobiology of behavior in relation to grief, loss, dying, anxiety, the reward system and sexuality, harm-reduction, shame, post-traumatic stress disorder, attachment theory, addiction, gender, and most importantly, communication. 

I have other lines on Niteflirt that showcase my expertise as Dominatrix of over a decade, however, that is not what this line is for. Please be mindful of that when calling. This line will not be used for those services.