Category Archives: DENVER CROSS DRESSERS

MY STYLE OF DOMINANCE

One of the things I have learned in the 11 years of being a BDSM practitioner and intimacy coach is that there are many different styles of dominance. If I were to sum up my style of play I would say that I am primarily a psychological dominant who thoroughly enjoys sensory stimulation, attention to detail, playing with fear and trust, intimacy, connection, communication – and also the unspoken dance that occurs while in session.

I have always said and strongly maintain that it is not what you do but how you do it. I recently advised a novice dominant who had purchased an entire set of expensive new toys that, “Someone can have a session full of fancy equipment, but if you’re not psychologically involved it won’t matter. Impact play with nothing more than a kitchen spatula can be hot as fuck if you know how to bring your psychological a-game.”

Although I can role-play scenes that range from age-play/incest to the more “innocent” power exchange of the naughty girlfriend, there is always an underlying thread of integrity that exists while I’m playing. In session, I teach not only the physical aspects of BDSM/submission but also the importance of being present – of being in the body and consciously feeling sensations and staying deeply aware of the unfolding experience. To put it simply, I am a space holder. While BDSM can engage the creative and lighthearted aspects of the mind and body, I tend to approach my sessions with depth, intimacy, and focus. I use the space to explore breath, erotic energy, and intent to connect on a very deep level – in session.

The light side of BDSM is engaging in an experience of pure pleasure, fun, creativity, and release. It is a space where things that are considered taboo can be normalized. It is acceptance and sex-positivity. I love this part of BDSM. I think we need to play more – not less – as we age. BDSM can help us remember what it was like to be imaginative, carefree, and expressive.

Another purpose of BDSM is using it as a tool to work through issues surrounding trust, PTSD/trauma, and attachment wounds (attachment as it is defined here). To put it simply, a relationship with a dominant can help one heal. However, I would not trust any dominant to dive into the depths of the psyche. If you are looking for a healer, you had better make sure the person is well-equiped from either in-depth personal or professional experience/education. To be a survivor of trauma or abuse is not enough – it takes having studied the mind objectively, which isn’t possible unless the person has done some major internal work on BOTH intellectual and emotional fields.

So, yes, my sessions tend to be very involved, regardless of whether or not the intention is to have fun or to heal wounds. I’ve always been a very sensitive being, and I see great strength in sensitivity. The way my mind works is anything buy neurotypical. My brain does bottom-up thinking (specific to general), I think in pictures, notice all details in the environment, and have an uncanny ability to read people. So, it is only natural for me to take a very involved stance with submissives when we are in session. Being sensitive has taught me a lot about boundaries, that’s for sure, which is why I have strict communication policies for outside of session. Basically, I never engage in emotional labour for free.

My focus on substance as opposed to superficiality transfers to the type of clothes I wear for sessions, too. I’m all about CFNM (clothed female, nude male). It is not my style to be naturally preoccupied with the costume and dress-up part of BDSM. Sure, I will occasionally wear wigs and certain fetish items like stockings or boots, but I’m not a costume fetishist by heart. If you haven’t already gathered, my fetishes lie within the mind, body, and emotions, and anything else can just be a distraction. Quite frankly, dressing to be sexy for a sub couldn’t be more counterintuitive to the reason we play. Now, dressing to be comfortable for myself, well, that’s hot to me. Again, this comes down to my philosophy of the psychology mattering much more than anything else. Confidence is sexy.

Anyway, by now you should have an understanding of my innate style as a dominant. I also pride myself on being real. How can I expect you to show up honestly if I’m too scared to do so?

DENVER DOMINATRIX POOL PARTY!

I had the most wonderful time with my slut today. We celebrated her birthday, and I dressed her up like my perfect little fuck doll. For her birthday I got her a few things, but the most important thing that I got her was a swimsuit because she had never had a pool party as her new self, Cici.

It fit!

Cici has been emerging over the past years in and out of our sessions. It is been quite an honor to watch the transformation of gender and sexuality with someone I now call a close friend.

I love making people feel special, but more than anything I love to help others express themselves. It touches a special place in my heart to help others liberate themselves and find freedom in whichever way they desire. Of course, liberation does not have to include gender play, but in this case it did.

I made sure everything was perfect by decorating the dungeon, having snacks, drinks, and of course, a cake.

The earlier part of the afternoon was spent in the pool before we transitioned into the cool red light of the dungeon. Cici has learned, overtime, how to be a good girl and how to please this Denver Dominatrix.

Let’s just say that I’m sure all of her birthday wishes – and mine – were answered. Thank you for the amazing day, Cici.

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YOU CAN TAKE IT OUT ON YOUR SLAVE

Being a Dominatrix comes with great responsibility. Creating a sacred sexual space comes with ethical obligations.

Occasionally, like everyone, I have bad days. When I share this with others I am often told, “You can take it out on your slave.”

To put it simply, there is NO WAY that I – or anyone else – should ever take a bad day out on a slave – with one exception.

The exception is to obtain consent so that both parties are clear on the intention of play.

My background in psychotherapy and my knowledge of countertransference guide my ethical compass. I also am well-informed on emotional entanglement vs. healthy relationships.

Even if I mask what is going on, my slave/bottom/sub will feel it on an energetic level. To think of other providers who use others to meet their needs for emotional enmeshment or codependency is of great concern to me. In that situation, no one gets better.

I am not saying that I put my emotional needs to the side forever. If I am upset and have a booking, I simply reassure myself that I will revisit the issue once the session has finished. This helps me be present for myself and for my submissive while we play.

I am always available to consult with other providers to help them find ways to be most effective when holding space. If you are a slave and you are concerned about the way your Mistress takes things out on you, book a consult and we can discuss ways for you to navigate the situation. https://kinkencounters.com/online-bdsm-sessions-distance-dominance/

THE GIFT OF SUBMISSION

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Submission is a gift. Submission is not something that Dommes are entitled to, and it is not something to be taken with force (unless of course there has been negotiation in regards to a role-play beforehand).

So, why is submission a gift? Continue reading THE GIFT OF SUBMISSION

THE ART OF ROLE-PLAYING – FREE VIDEO CLIP INCLUDED

I was perusing my old videos (I like to make a lot of movies…with consent of course) – and I stumbled across a clip that made me want to write a post on the art of role-playing. Continue reading THE ART OF ROLE-PLAYING – FREE VIDEO CLIP INCLUDED

WINTER BREAK

Hello kinky people! It’s your favorite Dominatrix informing you of my winter break that will occur from December 21 through January 2. Continue reading WINTER BREAK

DENVER DOMINATRIX BIRTHDAY WISH

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My birthday is in June and I am planning Continue reading DENVER DOMINATRIX BIRTHDAY WISH

URETHRAL SOUNDS ELECTRIFYING!

I’m going to render you helpless on my bondage table, perhaps mummified in cellophane with only the important parts protruding – the parts I’m going to need for my delicious torment.

Perhaps I’ll use my PES. It gives me the perfect amount of control with the simple turn of a finger. You’re not scared are you? I promise to be gentle… as I want to be. I long to hear you moan.

Oh, what did you say? You like it when I fuck your cock with my metal rod? Nope, you don’t get that, my little slave. You’re going to have to beg and beg and beg and beg…

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CUCKHOLD ROLEPLAY

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Note: This is a roleplay scenario. Yogurt was used in lieu of cum, and no, there was not a real man fucking me in the room…. it was all done by imagination!!!! I blindfolded him, and then made slapping sounds on my ass as I screamed about how hard I was being fucked and how big the imaginary man’s cock was.
There was no compromising of anyone’s health. No oral, just pretend 🙂 Oh, but he did suck my condom covered cock 🙂 and a very good job he did, too…

Read on for the nitty gritty DETAILS:
The role play was that we were married and I have a small cock and cum too soon to satisfy my wife. We had sex this morning and it happened again I came and she did not. So she sent me to work wearing her panties under my work clothes. We picked up the role play as I was coming home from work that evening.
I said hello and She asked me to come in the living room and sit down. The living room was set up with candles burning etc. She told me after my lack of performance this moring that I should sit on floor at her feet. She told me our life together was going to change or we would not be together. She said she had a lot of surprise for me this evening. She told me to strip except for the panties she had me wear to work. She was dressed very sexy. she grabbed my cock through my panties and said from now on it would be called my clit, and my ass would be called my pussy. She said I was going to be her sissy bitch from now on. My clit had started to leak pre-cum which she noticed and scooped it up with her finger and made me eat it. Danielle then tied my wrist together and had me crawl over to a bench and lean against the benchand stick out my panty covered ass. She pulled down the panties a little and hand spanked warming up both cheeks. She suddenly with a lubed finger penetrated my ass and massaged my prostate. This started a regular flow of pre-cum which she made sure to feed to me. With her finger in my ass she wispered in my ear that she had a friend in the bedroom that she was going to bring into the living room and fuck to her hearts content. She withdrew her finger and blindfolded me. She brought her friend into the room and started service his huge cock, she mounted him right there on the couch they switched to doggy and he was really pounding her. She came hard followed quickly by him. He came deep in her pussy. He quickly left and my blindfold was lifted. She was ravaged. There was cum running down her thighs and all over her ass. She first made me clean the cum off her ass then the cum running down her thighs. After the clean up she said that she was going to fuck me now, but not the way I think. She left the room and returned with a strap on. She made me suck and deep throat her strap on. She then bent me over the bench and atempted to enter me. I beg her not to because it was too big. After begging many times she said ok try wiffing a little of this stuff and we will try again, but sooner or later I’m going to fuck your cunt you sissy bitch. I did as I was told after a couple wiffs she tried again and she entered me with her strap on. She waited a bit after first entering then started to move in and out. Soon she was fucking me hard and making me beg for it harder. She rubbed my leaking clit through my panties and fed me more pre-cum. Soon I told her I was going to cum she made me cum in my panties. She pulled up my cum soaked panties and made me get dressed and sent me home in cum soaked panties.
What a wonderful session. Her role play skills are great, and her strap on use was very well done no pain just pleasure.

PUNISHMENT

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Mistress,

You are a harsh but fair Mistress and I appreciate that. Today reminded me to never disobey You again. I got up this morning and started to put on my pair of panties as You have instructed me to wear daily and remembered that I was told to wear different attire today. So I went to my bag and found the diapers You had left in there for me from the last time I saw You a few days ago. I put them on and got dressed. I did not want to wear them Mistress and felt so ashamed but knew it was my punishment for standing to pee the other day. I also know it amuses You and of course I get so much pleasure out of making You happy. You are so good to me Mistress that it gives me lots of incentive to please You however I can. I arrived at work and realized that they were not nearly as bulky and awkward as I was expecting so I though it would be a relatively easy day. That was until about 10 AM when I felt the need to pee. Today I was in all day meetings at work so I excused myself from the meeting and went into the bathroom. Luckily the large stall was open. I sat on the toilet with my pants down and the diaper You instructed me to wear and pee in on and peed. I had to pee alot so the diaper filled up. I had to undress from the waste down to take it off and put a new one on so I did that with someone in the next stall. I was so nervous cause now I realized I needed to get to the trash can across the bathroom to throw it away without someone coming in. I waited until the other person in the bathroom left and with my heart racing practically ran across the bathroom and threw away the peed in diaper. I went back into my meeting and texted You what I had done. When You responded and told me that You wanted proof that I was wearing a diaper I did as You instructed. I excused myself from the meeting once again and went back into the stall and took a photo of the diaper with the sticky note You asked me to put on it and sent it to You. Other then You teasing me the rest of the day was fairly uneventful until I had to peed once again in the afternoon. I wanted to just hold it the rest of the day but I was not sure I could and I knew it would not please You so I went into the stall again and peed into the diaper. This time I think my little dick was too far at the top of the diaper because pee started leaking out of the diaper as I was going to the bathroom. I just kept going feeling very nervous that the person in the stall next to me would notice that pee was running onto the floor because I had been sitting too far forward on the toilet seat. Even though You did not ask or require it I sent You a picture of my pee filled diaper for Your amusement. At this point I felt so happy that the day was mostly over and that I could leave work soon.

Mistress I am so sorry I disobeyed You I will never pee standing up again unless You say I can. I am grateful You are such a strict Mistress and I hope to continue to improve as Your loyal little slave.

Your slave,

krissy