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THE GIFT OF SUBMISSION

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Submission is a gift. Submission is not something that Dommes are entitled to, and it is not something to be taken with force (unless of course there has been negotiation in regards to a role-play beforehand).

So, why is submission a gift? Continue reading THE GIFT OF SUBMISSION

THE ART OF ROLE-PLAYING – FREE VIDEO CLIP INCLUDED

I was perusing my old videos (I like to make a lot of movies…with consent of course) – and I stumbled across a clip that made me want to write a post on the art of role-playing. Continue reading THE ART OF ROLE-PLAYING – FREE VIDEO CLIP INCLUDED

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUR DENVER DOMINATRIX

Hey guys! I just wanted to let you know of some upcoming availability changes due to MY BIRTHDAY! I will be unavailable for the entire week of June 6 and will not be answering any emails.

If you would like to show your support for Continue reading HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUR DENVER DOMINATRIX

CHRISTMAS WISH NO. 2

Christmas wish!!! I have wanted a gold bar necklace for quite some time now. I love how delicately they lay on my neck, and since I’ve turned 30, I’ve started wearing gold instead of silver. It just matches my olive tone more accurately, I feel more like a lady in gold, and it is warm as opposed to the cold colored silver or steel look.

That being said, I’ve had my eye on the god bar necklace right here:

It’s also on sale!!!! Click the picture to be taken to the website.

Contact me for mailing information. xoxoxo

Merry XXXmas!!!!

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https://youtu.be/kIRC6bmchEc

 

IT’S OK TO PAY

Why it’s ok to pay:

I have a client, we’ll call him Ron, who I’ve known for a few years now. Ron and I have developed a loose friendship outside of our professional relationship -a friendship that consists of Continue reading IT’S OK TO PAY

CHRISTMAS WISH **FULFILLED**

This is a page that is dedicated to my most recent wish. 

You all know I’m in love with perfume, especially Tom Ford’s perfume. I have two fragrances of his so far, but I’m really hoping for this one next. It’s amazing. Woodsy but slightly sweet, like nothing I’ve ever smelled before.

http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/tom-ford-private-blend-santal-blush-eau-de-parfum/3215860

 

The posting will be live until my wish is granted. I know that won’t be too long. Inquire within for shipping information.

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THANK YOU FROM YOUR DENVER DOMINATRIX

This Denver Dominatrix wants to offer a humble and heartfelt thank you to all of you who helped make my birthday wish come true. I could not have done it without you, and through your donations, I was able to contribute Continue reading THANK YOU FROM YOUR DENVER DOMINATRIX

WHAT IS PROFESSIONAL BDSM?

What is Professional BDSM?

            Professional BDSM is a multi-faceted, ritualistic practice that occurs between consenting adults who wish to act out sexual or non-sexual fantasies that pertain specifically to the exchange of power and trust. BDSM sessions, also called scenes, can include physiological and psychological stimulation, role-play scenarios, costumes, make-believe, and objects that have certain meanings attached to them – otherwise known as fetish objects. All scenes involve a dominant and a submissive, also referred to as a top and a bottom, respectively, and usually involve two people, although scenes with multiple people can also occur. Professional scenes can last anywhere from one hour to multiples of hours or days and include negotiations beforehand to discuss boundaries, limits, safe words, and desires. Sessions should – but do not always – include aftercare. Aftercare is the intentional allotted time that occurs after the scene in order for the dominant to offer comfort, a space to process, and communication to the submissive. Many players consider aftercare to be the most important part of a scene. Most importantly, BDSM scenes are conducted in an environment in which players can allow any emotion to surface without feeling judged or shamed by the external constructs of mainstream society. 

            There are many different styles of BDSM. The type of play is dependent upon the emotional and physiological awareness of the dominant, his or her expertise, as well as the intentions set for the session – if any have been set at all. There are many practitioners who cater more to physical sensations in a session as opposed to psychological; there are practitioners who focus only on the psychological. My ideal style of play is a holistic approach that incorporates both physiological and psychological stimulation. For me, the exchange of trust and emotional intimacy are paramount. I prefer to use my sessions as safe spaces where people can build relationships, learn to express needs, explore their bodies and minds, learn about shame, and allow fears to exist without fighting, running, or freezing. Fighting, running, or freezing are also responses to trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and it is no mystery to practitioners in the community that BDSM can be used to help people work through PTSD. 

            Sensation play and sensory deprivation are huge components of BDSM. Some examples of tools that can be used for sensation play are crops, floggers, whips, clothespins, paddles, and neurological tools, such as the infamous Wartenburg wheel – a metal pinwheel with sharp points that spin on an axle, or the violet wand – a handheld device that administers static electricity to skin. Some examples of tools that are used for sensory deprivation are ropes, blindfolds, gags, earplugs, cages, and hoods. Sensation and sensory deprivation have functions in play, and either or both give the dominant more ability control what type of experience the submissive may have.