Category Archives: DOMINANCE

THE SHUTTING DOWN OF BACKPAGE.COM

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NEW YEAR POST

I went back and forth about whether or not to create a New Year post. I don’t really celebrate the New Year, simply because it doesn’t make sense Continue reading NEW YEAR POST

WHAT IS SUB SPACE

I don’t know why it never dawned on me to write a post on the wonderful topic of subspace. I think I just assumed that everyone knew what subspace was, and I have been reminded again that it is important to think of things from the mind of a beginner.

So, what is subspace? Continue reading WHAT IS SUB SPACE

DENVER DOMINATRIX BIRTHDAY WISH

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My birthday is in June and I am planning Continue reading DENVER DOMINATRIX BIRTHDAY WISH

NEGOTIATION AND VERBAL COPULATION

Negotiation and Verbal Copulation

Communication Before, During, and After BDSM

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WHEN CUDDLING IS KINKY

I have found, over the past nine years, that fetishists and kinksters, people in D/s relationships, and submissives (and Dominants) can all have very specific kinks and desires. Sometimes, those desires are a little less typical…like cuddling.

In fact, sometimes when people make initial contact with me, they have a script of sorts – a tale of fantasy – that they have acted out alone numerous times before coming to a Professional Dominant like myself. Yet, sometimes, cuddling is kinky… Continue reading WHEN CUDDLING IS KINKY

THE INVISIBLE SEX WORKER

I wonder if I’ll ever get used to the invisibility of being a sex worker.

So many times I find myself at social functions merely watching as my partner is asked question after question about her professional life. “So, what exactly do you do in your work,” they ask her. She answers. They say, Continue reading THE INVISIBLE SEX WORKER

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

I just wanted to send a message to you  to thank you for your servitude, generosity, and submission this year. I also wanted to say HAPPY NEW YEAR!

I am very thankful for all my interactions with you and I thrive on the intimate experiences we have had. If it weren’t for you I wouldn’t be who I am, I wouldn’t be able to do the things I want to do – in and out of the dungeon – and for that I am thankful. I thank you for helping me express myself and I can’t wait to see what we will learn together in the new year.

Be safe tonight, relax, and have fun!

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BLOW UP DOLL? WHY NOT!?

This was one of the most fun sessions this Denver Dominatrix has had in a long time. When my submissive presented the idea, he was very nervous – thinking I’d judge him, but then I told him that I used to hump Continue reading BLOW UP DOLL? WHY NOT!?

INTERNATIONAL DAY TO END VIOLENCE AGAINST SEX WORKERS

Today is International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers.

I’m sure when you hear this, images of sex workers being raped, accosted by police, and pushed around by pimps enter your mind. I would like to hope that this day represents solidarity for sex workers who have experienced all of the violent encounters mentioned above.

On a deeper level, I would like to address the violence that occurs on a daily basis as a result from societal oppression, stigmatization, and silence around the topic of sex work as a whole.

Violence is also this:

  • The failure to recognize and even omittance of sex workers as a marginalize community within popular culture, educational programs, and government agencies.
  • Failure to recognize sex work as an actual occupation or condemning sex work as a whole simply because it is not socially acceptable or considered “normal.”
  • Speaking in hushed tones around an “out” sex worker when talking about his or her work.
  • Breaking friendships or cutting ties with sex workers because you are uncomfortable with his or her profession.
  • Assuming that sex workers are sex workers because they have a history of trauma or abuse.
  • Drawing conclusions about a sex worker’s sexuality or sex life solely based on his or her profession.
  • Thinking that sex workers don’t deserve to be loved or be in committed or noncommitted relationships simply because they trade sex for objects of value.
  • Adopting a code of silence around a sex worker’s occupation when he or she has made it clear that they are open to communicating.
  • Failing to recognize the emotional capacity of sex workers – people who hold space for some of the most intimate of human expressions.
  • Perpetuating the shame and invisibility of sex work by choosing to stay silent.

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