The topic of female assertion has been coming up a lot as of late. It would be safe to assume that I do identify as a strong, assertive woman. To some, my dominance – which stereotypically is a masculine trait – is extremely threatening and has provoked the use of labels such as bitchy, scary, or mean. I understand that it may throw a lot of people off when they see such a (mostly) feminine looking woman exhibiting such confidence or assertion, but those people aren’t usually the ones with whom I choose to spend my valuable time. Continue reading THE ASSERTIVE WOMAN
Category Archives: DENVER MISTRESS
PROFESSIONAL BOUNDARIES IN PRO-DOMINATION
EVERYONE IS AN ARTIST
I thought I would share something personal on my blog today. Usually I don’t add much to kinkencounters.com that isn’t relevant to BDSM, but today I finished a major accomplishment and I just have to share, and if you really think about it, being a Professional Dominatrix IS all about art, intuition, feeling, sharing, being, experiencing – which is A LOT like being an artist. Continue reading EVERYONE IS AN ARTIST
BITCH BATH
Tonight was a very special night for my slave. A couple of weeks ago I gave him a package and told him to wait to open it until I
could be with him, since inside contained a “hands-on” type of gift. Being the impatient slut that he is, I knew it would drive him crazy to have to look at it every day and wonder. That was the point.
Continue reading BITCH BATH
NOSCOSEXUALISM
So, for years I’ve been calling myself a sapiosexual. A sapiosexual is someone who is attracted to or aroused by intelligence. While I really admire smart people and generally think they’re hot, they can often be arrogant which really turns me off. Also, it’s not like I feel like having sex with someone just because they’re smart. Continue reading NOSCOSEXUALISM
FUCK SHAME
Shame is a topic that comes up often in my line of work. In fact, it hasn’t been until very recently that I’ve rejected my own shame in regards to sex and pleasure. I used to take on the shame of my clients – that is, I used to become completely immeshed with them without even knowing it. Now, I have the emotional maturity to separate my emotions from all people I come in contact with, and that enables me to be even more empathetic, offer guidance, and express my needs and desires. Continue reading FUCK SHAME
ORAL SEX
ORAL SEX WITH DOMME DANIELLE
SEX WORK MOVIES
I’m often asked about my favorite sex work / sex movies.
Here’s my list in alphabetical order. Keep checking back, and I’ll update the list as soon as I can remember more. Most of the movies are all documentaries, not intentionally but because documentaries are amazing. I particularly like “The Great Happiness Space” and “La Bare,” because they are about male sex workers: Continue reading SEX WORK MOVIES
GAYS, GOD, AND SEX WORK
A response to a relative:
Thank you for your apology.
You know, I sat on our conversation for the entire evening, and read your email and sat on that for a while as well. I’m going to be completely honest with you. Our conversation did really upset me. Continue reading GAYS, GOD, AND SEX WORK
WHAT EVERY SUB SHOULD READ
I asked Krissy to do a write-up on what it means to be a slave. I feel that many people have a misconception about D/s relationships. Krissy is married and is also polyamorous. Krissy provides very good insight on D/s relationships. Here is what every sub should read: