I have found, over the past nine years, that fetishists and kinksters, people in D/s relationships, and submissives (and Dominants) can all have very specific kinks and desires. Sometimes, those desires are a little less typical…like cuddling.
In fact, sometimes when people make initial contact with me, they have a script of sorts – a tale of fantasy – that they have acted out alone numerous times before coming to a Professional Dominant like myself. Yet, sometimes, cuddling is kinky… Continue reading WHEN CUDDLING IS KINKY→
I just wanted to send a message to you to thank you for your servitude, generosity, and submission this year. I also wanted to say HAPPY NEW YEAR!
I am very thankful for all my interactions with you and I thrive on the intimate experiences we have had. If it weren’t for you I wouldn’t be who I am, I wouldn’t be able to do the things I want to do – in and out of the dungeon – and for that I am thankful. I thank you for helping me express myself and I can’t wait to see what we will learn together in the new year.
I’m going to render you helpless on my bondage table, perhaps mummified in cellophane with only the important parts protruding – the parts I’m going to need for my delicious torment.
Perhaps I’ll use my PES. It gives me the perfect amount of control with the simple turn of a finger. You’re not scared are you? I promise to be gentle… as I want to be. I long to hear you moan.
Oh, what did you say? You like it when I fuck your cock with my metal rod? Nope, you don’t get that, my little slave. You’re going to have to beg and beg and beg and beg…
You are a harsh but fair Mistress and I appreciate that. Today reminded me to never disobey You again. I got up this morning and started to put on my pair of panties as You have instructed me to wear daily and remembered that I was told to wear different attire today. So I went to my bag and found the diapers You had left in there for me from the last time I saw You a few days ago. I put them on and got dressed. I did not want to wear them Mistress and felt so ashamed but knew it was my punishment for standing to pee the other day. I also know it amuses You and of course I get so much pleasure out of making You happy. You are so good to me Mistress that it gives me lots of incentive to please You however I can. I arrived at work and realized that they were not nearly as bulky and awkward as I was expecting so I though it would be a relatively easy day. That was until about 10 AM when I felt the need to pee. Today I was in all day meetings at work so I excused myself from the meeting and went into the bathroom. Luckily the large stall was open. I sat on the toilet with my pants down and the diaper You instructed me to wear and pee in on and peed. I had to pee alot so the diaper filled up. I had to undress from the waste down to take it off and put a new one on so I did that with someone in the next stall. I was so nervous cause now I realized I needed to get to the trash can across the bathroom to throw it away without someone coming in. I waited until the other person in the bathroom left and with my heart racing practically ran across the bathroom and threw away the peed in diaper. I went back into my meeting and texted You what I had done. When You responded and told me that You wanted proof that I was wearing a diaper I did as You instructed. I excused myself from the meeting once again and went back into the stall and took a photo of the diaper with the sticky note You asked me to put on it and sent it to You. Other then You teasing me the rest of the day was fairly uneventful until I had to peed once again in the afternoon. I wanted to just hold it the rest of the day but I was not sure I could and I knew it would not please You so I went into the stall again and peed into the diaper. This time I think my little dick was too far at the top of the diaper because pee started leaking out of the diaper as I was going to the bathroom. I just kept going feeling very nervous that the person in the stall next to me would notice that pee was running onto the floor because I had been sitting too far forward on the toilet seat. Even though You did not ask or require it I sent You a picture of my pee filled diaper for Your amusement. At this point I felt so happy that the day was mostly over and that I could leave work soon.
Mistress I am so sorry I disobeyed You I will never pee standing up again unless You say I can. I am grateful You are such a strict Mistress and I hope to continue to improve as Your loyal little slave.
I really cannot seem to write enough about the differences between Pro-Dommes and escorts. First, let me start by saying that I have nothing against any form of sex work. I encourage people who want to use the services of escorts to do just that, and I also encourage safety in all types of play. Yes, oral, too. Oral means any act of sex performed on ANY genitalia – pussy, cock, or ass.Continue reading PRO-DOMME VS ESCORT→
I asked Krissy to do a write-up on what it means to be a slave. I feel that many people have a misconception about D/s relationships. Krissy is married and is also polyamorous. Krissy provides very good insight on D/s relationships. Here is what every sub should read:
Mistress below is my writing on What it means to serve a Mistress. I have had the opportunity to serve many different Dominant women and a few Dominant men starting at the age of 15. I am currently married to a Dominant woman and am also in a relationship as a slave to an incredible Mistress. I have learned many things in my 20 years as a submissive and hundreds of hours of service. One of the main things I have learned is that most submissives by nature are very selfish. By nature I am no exception to this. This last summer at Thunder in the Mountains Laura Antoniou, author of the Marketplace series, summed it well by saying that she thought it was crazy that Dominants collected submissives. She said submissives should collect Dominants. She went on to explain that submissives are the neediest people on earth and they never get enough. So her rationale is that one Dominant could never keep up with many subs as one sub is usually too much for one dominant.The knowledge and recognition in me knowing that selfishness is a core characteristic in most submissives, including myself, has allowed me to approach my service of my Mistress with a self awareness that I have not always had. It has helped me realize that I, like most submissives, am inherently focused on getting my needs met first and foremost. It is this awareness that allows me to ensure that my actions of service are not driven only or even mostly by getting my needs met. I believe it is important that ANY D/s or M/s relationship is mutually beneficial. If both sub and Domme are not getting their needs met then the relationship will eventually fail. There has to be a balance that allows for both in the relationship to be fulfilled. I believe there are a few key elements to any D/s relationship. 1. A mutual desire and compatibility 2. Open and honest communication 3. Trust 4. Pleasure from service
Having a mutual desire and being compatible has to be there first. If the sub wants to be beat and fucked with a strap on daily but the Domme doesn’t like strap on play and only enjoys beatings every once in awhile then the relationship will not likely work because one of the two will always be feeling like they are compromising themselves by giving more then they are willing to or not getting their own needs met. Open and honest communication is important because this is the basis for both the Domme and the sub to be able to express what they need and how they are feeling. It is both compatibility and open and honest communication that helps you build trust. As a submissive I have to trust, not demand, that my Mistress will give me the things I need if I submit fully and serve her needs. The last one is getting to a place where you truly gain pleasure from service. This one took me a long time to get to but I truly feel it and understand it now. Pleasure from service is when you do something that you personally may never have wanted to do or chosen to do but you do it because it pleases your Mistress. However it isn’t just that you did it but that you actually derived pleasure from pleasing your Mistress. That alone is the reward.So then knowing that submissives are generally selfish and focused on getting their needs met what does it really mean to actually serve a Mistress? Is it serving Your Mistress dinner dressed in panties or naked, worshipping her body as you give her a massage, getting bent over paddled and then violated by your Mistress? Although these can be forms of service, to me what it really means to actually serve is to put your Mistresses needs and desires before your own. When you want to do all of the aforementioned tasks because it is so exciting to do so but instead you help your Mistress clean out and organize her closet because it is truly helpful for her and makes her day or week a bit easier that to me is true service. It is getting pleasure from service but also putting trust in your Mistress that if you do those things your needs will also be met because that is what she wants as well (assuming compatible wants/desires).If you find that give a lot and get little in return (whether you are the Dominant or the submissive) then it is likely that you are not a good match for each other in an ongoing D/s relationship. For an ongoing D/s relationship (not just the occasional play) to be successful the submissive has to be willing to put his/her needs second when asked or appropriate. There should not be a sense of entitlement that the sub is owed something by the Domme. If your relationship is mutually beneficial, and you are compatible both in interests and desires then both the Domme and the sub will get their needs met.
If the foundation is there it is the role of the sub to truly submit to their Mistress and put their own desires second to that of their Mistress.
