Category Archives: COLORADO BDSM

THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PAIN AND LOVE

My motivation to write an article on the dichotomous relationship between love and pain lies heavily on the most common complaint I hear from couples I coach outside of the BDSM world.  The most common complaint I hear is that most of my clients experience an inability to connect with friends, family, or lovers – sometimes even pets. It presents as an inability to connect, to be vulnerable, and to experience empathy. I’m not talking about superficial connection that revolves around pleasantries, and I’m not talking about not being able to do activities with others. What I’m talking about is the connection that is often called “intimacy,” the connection that makes us feel safe, can make us feel comfortable sharing our bodies with others, and the connection that is a result of feeling seen, heard, and respected in our experiences.  Continue reading THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PAIN AND LOVE

LEIGH RAVEN ASSAULT

This is probably the longest post I have ever written. If I ask myself why I have taken the time to write this, the answer is that women need to have a voice. In our society, women often do not have voices in regards to many things – not just assault. That being said, I can imagine the emotional turmoil that Leigh Raven is experiencing right now, and to expect her to defend her position is ludicrous. She needs time to process and heal, and the last thing she needs is to defend or explain her trauma. In this post I will analyze and break down the entire scene of the released shoot. 

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If you don’t know about the Leigh Raven sexual assault claim during a porn shoot with Rico Strong, you should. Continue reading LEIGH RAVEN ASSAULT

ASK A DOMINATRIX

I’m going to be doing a video series where you can ask me any questions you like. Here is a link that will take you to guidelines and instructions. If you would prefer not to leave a comment on youtube, just send me an email. I will select a few questions and answer them in video format.

https://youtu.be/EM8XOc0MT20

 

SEX & DESIRE – PART I

Today I am going to write about sex and desire and how it pertains to relationships, control, and self-esteem. Let me start by clarifying my definition of sex. To me, sex is: Continue reading SEX & DESIRE – PART I

THE GIFT OF SUBMISSION

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Submission is a gift. Submission is not something that Dommes are entitled to, and it is not something to be taken with force (unless of course there has been negotiation in regards to a role-play beforehand).

So, why is submission a gift? Continue reading THE GIFT OF SUBMISSION

THE ART OF ROLE-PLAYING – FREE VIDEO CLIP INCLUDED

I was perusing my old videos (I like to make a lot of movies…with consent of course) – and I stumbled across a clip that made me want to write a post on the art of role-playing. Continue reading THE ART OF ROLE-PLAYING – FREE VIDEO CLIP INCLUDED

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUR DENVER DOMINATRIX

Hey guys! I just wanted to let you know of some upcoming availability changes due to MY BIRTHDAY! I will be unavailable for the entire week of June 6 and will not be answering any emails.

If you would like to show your support for Continue reading HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUR DENVER DOMINATRIX

THE SHUTTING DOWN OF BACKPAGE.COM

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WINTER BREAK

Hello kinky people! It’s your favorite Dominatrix informing you of my winter break that will occur from December 21 through January 2. Continue reading WINTER BREAK

CHRISTMAS WISH NO. 2

Christmas wish!!! I have wanted a gold bar necklace for quite some time now. I love how delicately they lay on my neck, and since I’ve turned 30, I’ve started wearing gold instead of silver. It just matches my olive tone more accurately, I feel more like a lady in gold, and it is warm as opposed to the cold colored silver or steel look.

That being said, I’ve had my eye on the god bar necklace right here:

It’s also on sale!!!! Click the picture to be taken to the website.

Contact me for mailing information. xoxoxo

Merry XXXmas!!!!

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