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THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PAIN AND LOVE

My motivation to write an article on the dichotomous relationship between love and pain lies heavily on the most common complaint I hear from couples I coach outside of the BDSM world.  The most common complaint I hear is that most of my clients experience an inability to connect with friends, family, or lovers – sometimes even pets. It presents as an inability to connect, to be vulnerable, and to experience empathy. I’m not talking about superficial connection that revolves around pleasantries, and I’m not talking about not being able to do activities with others. What I’m talking about is the connection that is often called “intimacy,” the connection that makes us feel safe, can make us feel comfortable sharing our bodies with others, and the connection that is a result of feeling seen, heard, and respected in our experiences.  Continue reading THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PAIN AND LOVE

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IT’S OK TO PAY

Why it’s ok to pay:

I have a client, we’ll call him Ron, who I’ve known for a few years now. Ron and I have developed a loose friendship outside of our professional relationship -a friendship that consists of Continue reading IT’S OK TO PAY

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WHAT I’VE LEARNED FROM BEING A DOMINATRIX

I have been meaning to write a blog post on this topic for quite some time now. I am about to reach my 10 year anniversary working in the adult entertainment industry, and that has led to a lot of reflection about the time that has passed, the things I’ve gained, the things I’ve lost, and the experiences I’ve had.

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