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SEX WORK IS REAL

Screen Shot 2014-10-29 at 1.32.50 PMIt’s time for people to wake up and realize the reality of the sex industry. It’s no new news that prostitution has been around for thousands of years and is often referred to as the oldest profession in the world. I’m not here to argue that case. I’m here to shed light on the billion dollar industry that is sex work. The industry isn’t going to magically disappear just because it makes you cringe or you feel uncomfortable thinking about the supposed lewd actions of people engaging in sex for money. Continue reading SEX WORK IS REAL

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RIP DOMINA CARMEN MORIARTY

Screen Shot 2014-10-18 at 1.35.05 PMFellow fetishists and kinky people, it is with regret and sadness that I must announce the death of one of my colleagues and community members, Domina Carmen Moriarty, also known as “MaestroCarmen” on fetlife.com. Continue reading RIP DOMINA CARMEN MORIARTY

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AN UNDERSTANDING OF THOSE AGAINST SEX WORK

I’ve been spending a lot of time, lately, critically thinking about what would make someone oppose the profession of sex work. Of course, this has stemmed from a personal encounter with someone who has expressed judgment and aversion in regards to me being a Professional Dominatrix. I don’t usually spend too much time on what other people think, but this person is a newly inherited family member, and so I feel an urge to understand things from her point of view. 

It is my naturally tendency to get curious about people who disprove of my actions, as oppose to get defensive or try to protect myself against some attack on my imaginary ego. Continue reading AN UNDERSTANDING OF THOSE AGAINST SEX WORK

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THE ASSERTIVE WOMAN

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The topic of female assertion has been coming up a lot as of late. It would be safe to assume that I do identify as a strong, assertive woman. To some, my dominance – which stereotypically is a masculine trait – is extremely threatening and has provoked the use of labels such as bitchy, scary, or mean. I understand that it may throw a lot of people off when they see such a (mostly) feminine looking woman exhibiting such confidence or assertion, but those people aren’t usually the ones with whom I choose to spend my valuable time. Continue reading THE ASSERTIVE WOMAN

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PROFESSIONAL BOUNDARIES IN PRO-DOMINATION

Continue reading PROFESSIONAL BOUNDARIES IN PRO-DOMINATION

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FISTING, A GUIDE FROM THE CRASH PAD

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First, let me start by explaining the primary reasons why I love THE CRASH PAD SERIES, BY PINK AND WHITE PRODUCTIONS:

“Based on the Award-Winning feminist queer porn The Crash Pad, Queer Filmaker Shine Louise Houston brings to the web authentic female and queer sexuality. Here you’ll find real dyke porn, lesbians, femme on femme, boi, stud, genderqueer and trans-masculine performers, transwomen, transmen, queer men and women engaging in authentic queer sexuality, whether it is with safer sex, strap-on sex, cocksucking, kink and bdsm,, gender play and fluidity, and always authentic orgasms.” –crashpadseries.com Continue reading FISTING, A GUIDE FROM THE CRASH PAD

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MY SISTER IS A PRODOMME

MY SISTER IS A PRODOMME:

A STORY

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THE PROFESSION

Long shadows lie themselves against the cobblestone streets of Boulevard de Clichy. The smell of crepes and espresso fill the air after the sun has peeled itself from the earth and the stones have separated themselves from feet that walked them just the night before. Welcome to the Red-light District of Paris. Continue reading MY SISTER IS A PRODOMME

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FACING YOUR FEARS

I received  message from a sub I was supposed to see:

Hi Domme Danielle. I bought the stockings, lipstick, and I shaved last night. I couldn’t sleep and I want to throw up from nervousness. I am not ready to turn this into reality. I apologize… Again, I’m sorry.

So, I would like to address facing your fears as a sub in the BDSM/Fetish lifestyle. First, know that I have firsthand experience with the anxiety of allowing someone else to take control.

That being said, you should always know that even in BDSM scenes, the sub is always the one in control. Actions are always consensual and safe.

My job as the professional is to give you the safe space where we can explore those boundaries in a play-like setting, and it is also my job to create the illusion that I own your ass!  Do I push your limits? Yes. Should you be scared? Yes. Do I convince you completely that you have no control? Yes. While in the scene, I allow my entire heart to be poured out.  It’s more than acting. It’s being.

There is a relationship between fear and arousal. Is fear the only tool I use? Absolutely not.

It upset me that this person cancelled, BUT  the predominant emotion I felt was sadness. What was I sad about? To know that in this fear-based society there was another human being that succumbed to his fears. Do I understand? Completely. Do I know that this person would have had an amazing, cathartic experience? Without a doubt.

Alas, I am a patient woman. I know I will be hearing from him soon. Helping others achieve emotional breakthrough is what I LIVE for.

Oh, and that’s why I require a deposit from you little bitches!

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