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THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PAIN AND LOVE

My motivation to write an article on the dichotomous relationship between love and pain lies heavily on the most common complaint I hear from couples I coach outside of the BDSM world.  The most common complaint I hear is that most of my clients experience an inability to connect with friends, family, or lovers – sometimes even pets. It presents as an inability to connect, to be vulnerable, and to experience empathy. I’m not talking about superficial connection that revolves around pleasantries, and I’m not talking about not being able to do activities with others. What I’m talking about is the connection that is often called “intimacy,” the connection that makes us feel safe, can make us feel comfortable sharing our bodies with others, and the connection that is a result of feeling seen, heard, and respected in our experiences.  Continue reading THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PAIN AND LOVE

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IT’S OK TO PAY

Why it’s ok to pay:

I have a client, we’ll call him Ron, who I’ve known for a few years now. Ron and I have developed a loose friendship outside of our professional relationship -a friendship that consists of Continue reading IT’S OK TO PAY

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WHAT I’VE LEARNED FROM BEING A DOMINATRIX

I have been meaning to write a blog post on this topic for quite some time now. I am about to reach my 10 year anniversary working in the adult entertainment industry, and that has led to a lot of reflection about the time that has passed, the things I’ve gained, the things I’ve lost, and the experiences I’ve had.

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EXPRESS YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES

I’ve debated writing a blog post on the topic of the importance of learning how to express your sexual desires for a long time now.

I’ve hesitated – because I think that many of my BDSM clients think that I’m simply supposed to Continue reading EXPRESS YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES

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MY START INTO THE ADULT ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY

Screen Shot 2014-02-05 at 9.10.54 AMI have been working in the adult entertainment industry for 8 years now. I started as a dancer when I was 22, worked as an escort for a year after that, and then slowly started making the transition into being the baddass FEMDOM I am today. Continue reading MY START INTO THE ADULT ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY

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THE ART OF ROLE-PLAYING – FREE VIDEO CLIP INCLUDED

I was perusing my old videos (I like to make a lot of movies…with consent of course) – and I stumbled across a clip that made me want to write a post on the art of role-playing. Continue reading THE ART OF ROLE-PLAYING – FREE VIDEO CLIP INCLUDED

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WHEN CUDDLING IS KINKY

I have found, over the past nine years, that fetishists and kinksters, people in D/s relationships, and submissives (and Dominants) can all have very specific kinks and desires. Sometimes, those desires are a little less typical…like cuddling.

In fact, sometimes when people make initial contact with me, they have a script of sorts – a tale of fantasy – that they have acted out alone numerous times before coming to a Professional Dominant like myself. Yet, sometimes, cuddling is kinky… Continue reading WHEN CUDDLING IS KINKY

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