Fellow fetishists and kinky people, it is with regret and sadness that I must announce the death of one of my colleagues and community members, Domina Carmen Moriarty, also known as “MaestroCarmen” on fetlife.com. Continue reading RIP DOMINA CARMEN MORIARTY
I’ve been spending a lot of time, lately, critically thinking about what would make someone oppose the profession of sex work. Of course, this has stemmed from a personal encounter with someone who has expressed judgment and aversion in regards to me being a Professional Dominatrix. I don’t usually spend too much time on what other people think, but this person is a newly inherited family member, and so I feel an urge to understand things from her point of view.
It is my naturally tendency to get curious about people who disprove of my actions, as oppose to get defensive or try to protect myself against some attack on my imaginary ego. Continue reading AN UNDERSTANDING OF THOSE AGAINST SEX WORK
The topic of female assertion has been coming up a lot as of late. It would be safe to assume that I do identify as a strong, assertive woman. To some, my dominance – which stereotypically is a masculine trait – is extremely threatening and has provoked the use of labels such as bitchy, scary, or mean. I understand that it may throw a lot of people off when they see such a (mostly) feminine looking woman exhibiting such confidence or assertion, but those people aren’t usually the ones with whom I choose to spend my valuable time. Continue reading THE ASSERTIVE WOMAN
So, for years I’ve been calling myself a sapiosexual. A sapiosexual is someone who is attracted to or aroused by intelligence. While I really admire smart people and generally think they’re hot, they can often be arrogant which really turns me off. Also, it’s not like I feel like having sex with someone just because they’re smart. Continue reading NOSCOSEXUALISM
I really cannot seem to write enough about the differences between Pro-Dommes and escorts. First, let me start by saying that I have nothing against any form of sex work. I encourage people who want to use the services of escorts to do just that, and I also encourage safety in all types of play. Yes, oral, too. Oral means any act of sex performed on ANY genitalia – pussy, cock, or ass. Continue reading PRO-DOMME VS ESCORT
Shame is a topic that comes up often in my line of work. In fact, it hasn’t been until very recently that I’ve rejected my own shame in regards to sex and pleasure. I used to take on the shame of my clients – that is, I used to become completely immeshed with them without even knowing it. Now, I have the emotional maturity to separate my emotions from all people I come in contact with, and that enables me to be even more empathetic, offer guidance, and express my needs and desires. Continue reading FUCK SHAME
I’m often asked about my favorite sex work / sex movies.
Here’s my list in alphabetical order. Keep checking back, and I’ll update the list as soon as I can remember more. Most of the movies are all documentaries, not intentionally but because documentaries are amazing. I particularly like “The Great Happiness Space” and “La Bare,” because they are about male sex workers: Continue reading SEX WORK MOVIES