Since I have recently added distance domination to my list of kinks and services that I offer, I wanted to show you all what distance domination via email looks like. This person is paying me $100 for 4-5 emails of any type, to be kept to a limit of two paragraphs each coming from him.
Today is International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers.
I’m sure when you hear this, images of sex workers being raped, accosted by police, and pushed around by pimps enter your mind. I would like to hope that this day represents solidarity for sex workers who have experienced all of the violent encounters mentioned above.
On a deeper level, I would like to address the violence that occurs on a daily basis as a result from societal oppression, stigmatization, and silence around the topic of sex work as a whole.
Violence is also this:
The failure to recognize and even omittance of sex workers as a marginalize community within popular culture, educational programs, and government agencies.
Failure to recognize sex work as an actual occupation or condemning sex work as a whole simply because it is not socially acceptable or considered “normal.”
Speaking in hushed tones around an “out” sex worker when talking about his or her work.
Breaking friendships or cutting ties with sex workers because you are uncomfortable with his or her profession.
Assuming that sex workers are sex workers because they have a history of trauma or abuse.
Drawing conclusions about a sex worker’s sexuality or sex life solely based on his or her profession.
Thinking that sex workers don’t deserve to be loved or be in committed or noncommitted relationships simply because they trade sex for objects of value.
Adopting a code of silence around a sex worker’s occupation when he or she has made it clear that they are open to communicating.
Failing to recognize the emotional capacity of sex workers – people who hold space for some of the most intimate of human expressions.
Perpetuating the shame and invisibility of sex work by choosing to stay silent.
Personal notes from Domme Danielle, Denver’s Intuitive Dominatrix
When my transgender mother tells me that she would have a lot more respect for me and my work as a BDSM/fetish specialist if I labeled it for “what it really is” – which to her is no more then prostitution, and it is completely invaluable because “it is not 40 hour a week job…” I tell her that her dumbing down my 10 years in the industry as a professional dominatrix to being no more than prostitution – which I have nothing against – would be like me telling her that she’s a man in a dress. Continue reading WHEN YOUR PARENT CALLS YOU A WHORE→
This topic will require more than one post. There is simply too much to cover in one sitting (my attention span isn’t that long). Enjoy Part I!
I was 23 when I entered the sex industry, and I was terrified. My first gig involved taking artistic nude photographs for money. Typically I would make about $150 for an hour or two of shots. I would find the photographers on Craigslist – the site that veteran sex workers like myself remember fondly – before the Craigslist killings took place and the site limited access to adult ads. Continue reading HOW SEX WORK HELPED MY SEX LIFE PART I→
Vulnerability can be defined as uncertainty, risk, or emotional and physical exposure. For many, in everyday life this emotion or feeling is not common. We all walk safely through our lives as we know them, all very routine and comforting. It is when we step out of those restraints of the everyday, that we become vulnerable. I have always sought this feeling when adventuring into the world of BDSM, and although so rare to find the person that instills this feeling, once in a while it slaps you in the face. Not completely unique to men in my position, this exposure or uncertainty derived from a truly dominant woman speaks to a part of me that few know. Most would see me as a natural leader, someone to look to to make decisions, not as the vulnerable man I placed in the hands of Domme Danielle.
It’s time for people to wake up and realize the reality of the sex industry. It’s no new news that prostitution has been around for thousands of years and is often referred to as the oldest profession in the world. I’m not here to argue that case. I’m here to shed light on the billion dollar industry that is sex work. The industry isn’t going to magically disappear just because it makes you cringe or you feel uncomfortable thinking about the supposed lewd actions of people engaging in sex for money. Continue reading SEX WORK IS REAL→