Category Archives: SAPIOSEXUAL


I was perusing my old videos (I like to make a lot of movies…with consent of course) – and I stumbled across a clip that made me want to write a post on the art of role-playing. Continue reading THE ART OF ROLE-PLAYING – FREE VIDEO CLIP INCLUDED

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Negotiation and Verbal Copulation

Communication Before, During, and After BDSM

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Screen Shot 2014-06-11 at 11.37.13 AMPre-session email from a submissive. 
“I’ll try very hard to sit on your couch and dispassionately talk about sessions and preferences et. al., but when I think of it that is the part seems like role play.  When I think about connecting with you, two things come to mind.  Talking with you afterwards about who you are now, where you are, glimpses at the back of the painting…

Continue reading AN INTIMATE JOURNEY

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Screen Shot 2014-10-29 at 1.32.50 PMIt’s time for people to wake up and realize the reality of the sex industry. It’s no new news that prostitution has been around for thousands of years and is often referred to as the oldest profession in the world. I’m not here to argue that case. I’m here to shed light on the billion dollar industry that is sex work. The industry isn’t going to magically disappear just because it makes you cringe or you feel uncomfortable thinking about the supposed lewd actions of people engaging in sex for money. Continue reading SEX WORK IS REAL

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The topic of female assertion has been coming up a lot as of late. It would be safe to assume that I do identify as a strong, assertive woman. To some, my dominance – which stereotypically is a masculine trait – is extremely threatening and has provoked the use of labels such as bitchy, scary, or mean. I understand that it may throw a lot of people off when they see such a (mostly) feminine looking woman exhibiting such confidence or assertion, but those people aren’t usually the ones with whom I choose to spend my valuable time. Continue reading THE ASSERTIVE WOMAN

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So, for years I’ve been calling myself a sapiosexual. A sapiosexual is someone who is attracted to or aroused by intelligence. While I really admire smart people and generally think they’re hot, they can often be arrogant which really turns me off. Also, it’s not like I feel like having sex with someone just because they’re smart. Continue reading NOSCOSEXUALISM

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Shame is a topic that comes up often in my line of work. In fact, it hasn’t been until very recently that I’ve rejected my own shame in regards to sex and pleasure. I used to take on the shame of my clients – that is, I used to become completely immeshed with them without even knowing it. Now, I have the emotional maturity to separate my emotions from all people I come in contact with, and that enables me to be even more empathetic, offer guidance, and express my needs and desires. Continue reading FUCK SHAME

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Words Make Me Hard…

Yes, they do…

  • Agonophilia: person who is aroused by partner pretending to struggle
  • Agoraphilia: arousal from open spaces or having sex in public
  • Agrexophilia: arousal from others knowing you are having sex
  • Algophilia: arousal from experiencing pain
  • Altocalciphilia: high heel fetish
  • Amaurophilia: preference for a blind or blindfolded sex partner
  • Anasteemaphilia: attraction to taller or shorter partners
  • Basoexia: arousal from kissing
  • Belonephilia: arousal from use of needles
  • Biastophilia: those preferring to violently rape their victims
  • Capnolagnia: arousal from watching others smoke
  • Cratolagnia: arousal from strength of partner
  • Doraphilia: arousal from animal fur, leather, or skin
  • Electrophilia: arousal from electrical stimulus
  • Entomophilia: arousal from insects or using, them in sex play
  • Ephebophilia: attraction to adolescent sex partner
  • Erotophonophilia: lust murder
  • Gerontophilia: attraction to a partner whose age is that of different generation
  • Gynemimetophilia: person aroused by a male impersonating a female
  • Hedonophilia: sexual arousal from engaging in pleasurable activity
  • Hyperphilia: compulsive desire for sex
  • Hyphephilia: arousal from touching skin, hair, leather, fur or fabric
  • Klismaphilia: arousal from enemas
  • Moriaphilia: arousal from telling sexual jokes
  • Naphephilia: arousal from touching or being touched
  • Necrophilia: sex with corpses
  • Oculolinctus: licking partner’s eyeball
  • Oculophilia: eye fetish
  • Odaxelagnia: arousal from biting
  • Odontophilia: arousal from tooth extractions or tooth fetish
  • Ophidiophilia: arousal from snakes
  • Paraphilia: sexual arousal to unusual or socially unacceptable object or act
  • Phallophilia: large penis fetish or preference
  • Pictophilia: arousal from pictures, video or movies with a sexual subject
  • Proctotitillia: tickling anus
  • Psychrophilia: arousal from being cold or watching others freeze
  • Pygophilemania: arousal from kissing buttocks
  • Pygophilia: arousal from contact with buttocks
  • Pyrophilia: arousal from fire or of its use in sex play
  • Raptophilia: arousal only from raping a victim
  • Sarmassophilia: arousal from kneading flesh
  • Stigmatophilia: arousal from partner who is stigmatized (i.e., tattoos, piercings, scars)
  • Traumaphilia: arousal from wounds or trauma; automasochism
  • Tripsolagnophilia: arousal from massage
  • Urophilia: arousal from urine
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