Category Archives: FORCED FEMINIZATION

MY STYLE OF DOMINANCE

One of the things I have learned in the 11 years of being a BDSM practitioner and intimacy coach is that there are many different styles of dominance. If I were to sum up my style of play I would say that I am primarily a psychological dominant who thoroughly enjoys sensory stimulation, attention to detail, playing with fear and trust, intimacy, connection, communication – and also the unspoken dance that occurs while in session.

I have always said and strongly maintain that it is not what you do but how you do it. I recently advised a novice dominant who had purchased an entire set of expensive new toys that, “Someone can have a session full of fancy equipment, but if you’re not psychologically involved it won’t matter. Impact play with nothing more than a kitchen spatula can be hot as fuck if you know how to bring your psychological a-game.”

Although I can role-play scenes that range from age-play/incest to the more “innocent” power exchange of the naughty girlfriend, there is always an underlying thread of integrity that exists while I’m playing. In session, I teach not only the physical aspects of BDSM/submission but also the importance of being present – of being in the body and consciously feeling sensations and staying deeply aware of the unfolding experience. To put it simply, I am a space holder. While BDSM can engage the creative and lighthearted aspects of the mind and body, I tend to approach my sessions with depth, intimacy, and focus. I use the space to explore breath, erotic energy, and intent to connect on a very deep level – in session.

The light side of BDSM is engaging in an experience of pure pleasure, fun, creativity, and release. It is a space where things that are considered taboo can be normalized. It is acceptance and sex-positivity. I love this part of BDSM. I think we need to play more – not less – as we age. BDSM can help us remember what it was like to be imaginative, carefree, and expressive.

Another purpose of BDSM is using it as a tool to work through issues surrounding trust, PTSD/trauma, and attachment wounds (attachment as it is defined here). To put it simply, a relationship with a dominant can help one heal. However, I would not trust any dominant to dive into the depths of the psyche. If you are looking for a healer, you had better make sure the person is well-equiped from either in-depth personal or professional experience/education. To be a survivor of trauma or abuse is not enough – it takes having studied the mind objectively, which isn’t possible unless the person has done some major internal work on BOTH intellectual and emotional fields.

So, yes, my sessions tend to be very involved, regardless of whether or not the intention is to have fun or to heal wounds. This is probably due to me having high functioning Aspergers and being a very sensitive human. The way my mind works is anything buy neurotypical. My brain does bottom-up thinking (specific to general), I think in pictures, notice all details in the environment, and have an uncanny ability to read people. I am also extremely sensitive, have dreams that come true, and the occasional premonition and moment of clairvoyance. So, it is only natural for me to take a very involved stance with my clients when we are in session. Being sensitive has taught me a lot about boundaries, that’s for sure, which is why I have strict communication policies for outside of session. Basically, I do not engage in emotional labour for free.

My focus on substance as opposed to superficiality transfers to the type of clothes I wear for sessions, too. It is not my style to be naturally preoccupied with the costume and dress-up part of BDSM. Sure, I will occasionally wear wigs and certain fetish items like stockings or boots, but I’m not a costume fetishist by heart. If you haven’t already gathered, my fetishes lie within the mind, body, and emotions, and anything else can just be a distraction. Quite frankly, dressing to be sexy for a sub couldn’t be more boring. Now, dressing to be comfortable for myself by wearing little to nothing or just a bra and panties, well, that’s hot to me. Again, this comes down to my philosophy of the psychology mattering much more than anything else. Confidence is sexy. Oh, and I don’t like latex. I can’t tell you the last time I wore it. It’s uncomfortable, so no thanks. I’d rather not be a cesspool of sweat and bacteria in an article of clothing that is a pain in the ass to get on and off. Things tend to get messy enough as is…

Anyway, by now you should have an understanding of my innate style as a dominant. I also pride myself on being real. How can I expect you all to show up honestly if I’m too scared to do so? I prefer not to hide behind the role of dominatrix and rather simply show up as myself – naturally assertive, sadistic, caring, and possessing skill of dominance and healing.

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THE ART OF ROLE-PLAYING – FREE VIDEO CLIP INCLUDED

I was perusing my old videos (I like to make a lot of movies…with consent of course) – and I stumbled across a clip that made me want to write a post on the art of role-playing. Continue reading THE ART OF ROLE-PLAYING – FREE VIDEO CLIP INCLUDED

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUR DENVER DOMINATRIX

Hey guys! I just wanted to let you know of some upcoming availability changes due to MY BIRTHDAY! I will be unavailable for the entire week of June 6 and will not be answering any emails.

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A SAMPLE OF DISTANCE EMAIL DOMINATION

Since I have recently added distance domination to my list of kinks and services that I offer, I wanted to show you all what distance domination via email looks like. This person is paying me $100 for 4-5 emails of any type, to be kept to a limit of two paragraphs each coming from him.

So, in this correspondence, Continue reading A SAMPLE OF DISTANCE EMAIL DOMINATION

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THE SHUTTING DOWN OF BACKPAGE.COM

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MY START INTO THE ADULT ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY

Screen Shot 2014-02-05 at 9.10.54 AMI have been working in the adult entertainment industry for 8 years now. I started as a dancer when I was 22, worked as an escort for a year after that, and then slowly started making the transition into being the baddass FEMDOM I am today. Continue reading MY START INTO THE ADULT ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY

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SEX WORK IS REAL

Screen Shot 2014-10-29 at 1.32.50 PMIt’s time for people to wake up and realize the reality of the sex industry. It’s no new news that prostitution has been around for thousands of years and is often referred to as the oldest profession in the world. I’m not here to argue that case. I’m here to shed light on the billion dollar industry that is sex work. The industry isn’t going to magically disappear just because it makes you cringe or you feel uncomfortable thinking about the supposed lewd actions of people engaging in sex for money. Continue reading SEX WORK IS REAL

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GROCERY GIRL

I thought I’d take a moment to exploit my little grocery girl, Julie. Julie is a long time submissive of mine who appreciates servitude, transformation, sensation play, and BDSM training, of course.

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Julie loves to run errands for her Mistress

About once a week I send her on a mission to Natural Grocers to pick up a few essentials for the house of kink, aka ma maison. Being able to assist in any way really pleases Julie. In fact, when Julie lived closer to me she was my official laundry slave. It was nice having clean and folded panties every week. Continue reading GROCERY GIRL

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NOSCOSEXUALISM

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So, for years I’ve been calling myself a sapiosexual. A sapiosexual is someone who is attracted to or aroused by intelligence. While I really admire smart people and generally think they’re hot, they can often be arrogant which really turns me off. Also, it’s not like I feel like having sex with someone just because they’re smart. Continue reading NOSCOSEXUALISM

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