My motivation to write an article on the dichotomous relationship between love and pain lies heavily on the most common complaint I hear from couples I coach outside of the BDSM world. The most common complaint I hear is that most of my clients experience an inability to connect with friends, family, or lovers – sometimes even pets. It presents as an inability to connect, to be vulnerable, and to experience empathy. I’m not talking about superficial connection that revolves around pleasantries, and I’m not talking about not being able to do activities with others. What I’m talking about is the connection that is often called “intimacy,” the connection that makes us feel safe, can make us feel comfortable sharing our bodies with others, and the connection that is a result of feeling seen, heard, and respected in our experiences. Continue reading THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PAIN AND LOVE→
Hey guys! Just a post to let you know that your Denver BDSM coach is having a birthday in June! You all know how much I love to be active, and so this year I’m asking for donations for a new bike! Of course, you can always check my wishlist for other gifts I desire.
So, here’s the beauty I want. I don’t need any accessories. Email me to inquire about how to send donations! Please do not purchase the bike because chances are, I’ll end up with more than one.
This is probably the longest post I have ever written. If I ask myself why I have taken the time to write this, the answer is that women need to have a voice. In our society, women often do not have voices in regards to many things – not just assault. That being said, I can imagine the emotional turmoil that Leigh Raven is experiencing right now, and to expect her to defend her position is ludicrous. She needs time to process and heal, and the last thing she needs is to defend or explain her trauma. In this post I will analyze and break down the entire scene of the released shoot.
I’m going to be doing a video series where you can ask me any questions you like. Here is a link that will take you to guidelines and instructions. If you would prefer not to leave a comment on youtube, just send me an email. I will select a few questions and answer them in video format.
Today I am going to write about sex and desire and how it pertains to relationships, control, and self-esteem. Let me start by clarifying my definition of sex. To me, sex is: Continue reading SEX & DESIRE – PART I→
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Submission is a gift. Submission is not something that Dommes are entitled to, and it is not something to be taken with force (unless of course there has been negotiation in regards to a role-play beforehand).